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Is Your Identity Defined By What You Do?

June 8, 2019 by Matt Pavlik Leave a Comment

Reading time: 3 minutes

Identity can’t be defined by what you do. It’s the other way around: what you do flows out of who you are.

The two are correlated though. What you do provides clues about who you are. But you are always more than what you do. And, in the case of a mistake, one moment in life doesn’t have the power to immortalize you.

What do you helps you discover your identity, but it doesn’t create or define your identity.

At the moment you came into existence, you have your identity. It serves as a map like your DNA. Life experiences are like sonar waves going out to detect your identity. Even what you do can be like identifying waves. Sometimes those waves contain distortions and you might get the wrong impression of who you are.

Your self-image is your best estimate of who you are. Your self-image is a limited, distorted version of your true identity. You limp along in life to some degree because you don’t know what it’s like to be completely free from the distortions. You can’t know, at least not in this life.

You can change your self-image to move into alignment with your identity. But your identity is fixed and unchanging for all time. That should be reassuring. You’re not aiming for at a moving target. You can become more aware of who you are.

Your identity is defined by your creator. If you want to know who you are, you need to ask God. So in this sense, who you are is somewhat of a mystery. Only God knows your identity completely.

Some people try to wrest control of their identity from their creator. “I’ll define myself my own way apart from God. I’ll manipulate my physical appearance, my body, and maybe even my DNA.” But this is only a superficial change compared to the identity God created for you.

You can observe your identity by looking at how you react to life experiences. You can also define it based on the truth found in the Bible. For example:

  • You are made in God’s image (similar to God but different, like how women are similar to men but different). See Genesis 1:26–27
  • You are a spiritual being that God made with intention. See Genesis 2:7
  • You are created to accomplish great things. See Ephesians 2:10

And there are many other defining statements in the Bible. Some of the definitions apply to everyone (everyone is made in God’s image), and some apply only to those who have become believers in Jesus Christ (Christians have a renewed spiritual connection with God and experience His love in a more intimate way – see 2 Corinthians 5:17 and Romans 5:5).

Then there are the specifics that only apply to each individual. You are unique. No one else has the same combination of abilities and perspective on life. You see God in a way that others need to hear. Your voice and contributions are needed – otherwise, God wouldn’t have bothered to create you. You are significant.

To define the specifics, you can look at your:

  • physical appearance and athletic ability
  • sex (male or female)
  • cognitive and emotional patterns and preferences
  • personality patterns
  • spiritual gifting
  • work preferences

When you start to notice the patterns in all of these, you will have a stronger sense of your identity.

As you seek your identity, remember that you aren’t self-sustaining. You can’t keep yourself alive forever. You have a distorted self-image. You need to look beyond yourself to find your identity. You are defined by your context; God is where you came from, and if you’re a believer, God is where you will return.

How are you doing with discovering your true identity? What struggles or obstacles are preventing you from realizing all God made you to be?

I posted this answer on Quora for the questions: Is our identity defined by what we do? If not, what is it defined by? If you like my answer, upvote it on Quora.

Image by Arek Socha from Pixabay

Filed Under: Boundaries, Identity, Self-Image, Spiritual Formation

The Kingdom of God Is Like

October 21, 2018 by Matt Pavlik 1 Comment

Reading time: 1 minutes

God’s kingdom is alive wherever Jesus Christ reigns. The best place for God to reign is in our hearts. However, remembering the spiritual reality behind the physical reality is challenging.

Jesus emphasized the kingdom frequently during His ministry. He compared the kingdom of heaven to several objects:

  • A farmer who plants seeds in various types of soil (Matthew 13:24).
  • A treasure worth selling everything for (Matthew 13:44).
  • A rare pearl worth selling everything for (Matthew 13:45-46).
  • A large fishing net capable of catching all kinds of fish (Matthew 13:47).
  • Yeast that can spread completely through dough (Luke 13:20-21).
  • A mustard seed which is small but has the potential to sustain many (Luke 13:18-19).

What do you get when you put all these together? Something small and powerful. Deceptively small and unbelievably powerful. But also large in its scope. Resilient and unstoppable. Silent and active.

When Jesus brought up these analogies for the kingdom, He went on to explain that the way to reach the kingdom is hard to find (Luke 13:24). This fits with looking for buried treasure. Nothing in all of creation is more worthwhile and meaningful than God’s kingdom.

Jesus also talked about the exclusivity of the kingdom (Matthew 13:11). Only certain people can see the kingdom and grasp its significance.

The ability to see God’s kingdom is a treasure in itself. God promises that He will give us an abundance of knowledge and understand beyond simply recognizing the kingdom (Matthew 13:12). God wants you to know the secrets of heaven.

Can you see and understand His secrets? Does the kingdom feel alive to you? Ask God to show you the kingdom along with an abundance of understanding. Tell God you want Him to reign in your heart.

Filed Under: God's Kingdom, Spiritual Formation

Identity and The Gospel

October 6, 2018 by Matt Pavlik 1 Comment

Reading time: 2 minutes

The Gospel is the foundation of Christian identity.  Without the Gospel, you couldn’t become born spiritually, so you’d never have access to your Christian identity.

When Paul wrote to the Galatians, he stressed repeatedly that the Gospel can’t be altered in any way. As soon as you add or remove something, you no longer have a Gospel. He goes on to say that the primary reason anyone would want to alter the Gospel would be to please another human.

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.

—Galatians 1:10

You might water down the Gospel so that more people qualify. The Gospel is already free. Or, almost free. You do have to want to spend eternity with God on His terms. The Gospel needs to be responded to for it to be effective. If we try to make it more inclusive, we steal away its power.

You might try to tighten up the Gospel so that fewer people qualify. But again, the Gospel isn’t some hard-to-get-into exclusive club. You can’t make a profit from the Gospel but charging someone. It’s already free, making someone jump through more hoops to qualify also robs the Gospel of its power.

The more we try to please anyone but God, the more we stray from fulfilling God’s plan for our lives. God has a purpose for us. Every day has a purpose. God knows the day you will wake up so you can intentionally seek your purpose. He strategically hides everyone’s purpose in their identity. If you know your identity, you know your purpose.

If you want some assistance in discovering who God made you to be, get my workbook, Confident Identity.

Filed Under: Identity, Spiritual Formation Tagged With: gospel, people pleasing

Satan is the Best Salesman

September 22, 2018 by Matt Pavlik Leave a Comment

Reading time: 2 minutes

Have you ever gone window shopping and ended up buying something? Maybe a lot of something?

I missed an appointment with someone recently. We got our times mixed up. While I waited for him to arrive, I went for a walk. I walked passed a bookstore. I decided to go in and look around. I walked out with three books I had no plan to buy. Maybe I should reword that. I didn’t steal them. I purchased three books that I didn’t know existed an hour earlier. I got them on sale, so it’s okay, right? All this happened without any salesman pressuring me to buy anything.

If Satan, the deceiver, was a salesman he would say, “Books are good for learning. Certainly, God doesn’t want you to be ignorant, does he?”

Of course, I’m not saying that buying books is a sin. Nor am I saying that Satan told me to buy those books. I’m happy with my purchase (two of the three books were Christian books, so it’s okay, right?).

The deceiver can make you think you’re on a good path when you’re really not. He can make you think your not good enough when you really are. He can make you think you need something when you really don’t.

Satan is the best salesman. He sold Adam and Eve on choosing hell over God. He sold that God was against them, withholding something great. He implied God lied. He could sell an iceberg to an Eskimo or a mirror to a blind man. But he doesn’t really have to. He only has to create the smallest bit of doubt to close his sale. Ssssssss. God is holding back on you. God isn’t all good. Ssssssss.

Life is God — there really isn’t anything else. God is either all good, or he’s got some bad in Him. If He’s got some bad, He ceases to be trustworthy. God, ruler of the universe, can only be trusted as 100 percent good, or not at all. Just remember: as soon as you believe God has any evil in Him, you’ve lost everything. If God can’t be perfect, then what hope do you have? Such doubts can reak havoc in your daily living.

Who are you trusting? Do you see God as all good, or do you see some bad in Him? Perhaps you believe God hasn’t treated you fairly? If so, to correct this, you must intentionally address your positive experience deficit. Seek the healing you need to experience God’s goodness.

Once you taste that God is good, even in the smallest amount, it can create enough faith to see that God must be all good. With God living inside you, you can overlook painful circumstances, and continue to see God as perfectly good.

Stop an imagine: How would seeing God as all good change how you see yourself, your self-image?

Filed Under: Identity, Spiritual Formation Tagged With: God's goodness

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