If I told you I am suffering needlessly, what adjectives would you use to describe me?
Everybody suffers. Some suffering is necessary while
Here is one way to define a balanced, healthy love:
Necessary suffering is God-ordained while needless suffering is self-inflicted. Click To Tweet
Love does not suffer needlessly but neither does it run from suffering when running would be a denial of love. A loving person walks away from harm when possible and stays and faces harm when that is the only way to be loving.Emilie Calabrese
Take a moment and reflect on your current suffering. Can you separate out which suffering is necessary and which is needless?
A mid-life crisis can involve coming face-to-face with the need to grow up. Instead of pressing forward, you decide to run away, refusing the opportunity for growth. Of course, then the only way to go is backward, so your behavior starts to look like your childhood and early adulthood.
Instead of crossing the emotional bridge, you remain “land-locked.”Self-inflicted pain is really self-rejection, a form of learned helplessness. Share on Twitter
Self-inflicted pain can be anything from the literal cutting of your body to psychological put-downs such as, “I’m not enough” or “I’m disgusting.”
Learned helplessness is a cycle of defeat with no apparent escape. The bridge forward might be visible but might as well be invisible because the thought of crossing seems ridiculous.
Start the journey by being aware of how you are suffering needlessly.