Identity can’t be defined by what you do. It’s the other way around: what you do flows out of who you are.
The two are correlated though. What you do provides clues about who you are. But you are always more than what you do. And, in the case of a mistake, one moment in life doesn’t have the power to immortalize you.
What do you helps you discover your identity, but it doesn’t create or define your identity.
At the moment you came into existence, you have your identity. It serves as a map like your DNA. Life experiences are like sonar waves going out to detect your identity. Even what you do can be like identifying waves. Sometimes those waves contain distortions and you might get the wrong impression of who you are.
Your self-image is your best estimate of who you are. Your self-image is a limited, distorted version of your true identity. You limp along in life to some degree because you don’t know what it’s like to be completely free from the distortions. You can’t know, at least not in this life.
You can change your self-image to move into alignment with your identity. But your identity is fixed and unchanging for all time. That should be reassuring. You’re not aiming for at a moving target. You can become more aware of who you are.
Your identity is defined by your creator. If you want to know who you are, you need to ask God. So in this sense, who you are is somewhat of a mystery. Only God knows your identity completely.
Some people try to wrest control of their identity from their creator. “I’ll define myself my own way apart from God. I’ll manipulate my physical appearance, my body, and maybe even my DNA.” But this is only a superficial change compared to the identity God created for you.
You can observe your identity by looking at how you react to life experiences. You can also define it based on the truth found in the Bible. For example:
- You are made in God’s image (similar to God but different, like how women are similar to men but different). See Genesis 1:26–27
- You are a spiritual being that God made with intention. See Genesis 2:7
- You are created to accomplish great things. See Ephesians 2:10
And there are many other defining statements in the Bible. Some of the definitions apply to everyone (everyone is made in God’s image), and some apply only to those who have become believers in Jesus Christ (Christians have a renewed spiritual connection with God and experience His love in a more intimate way – see 2 Corinthians 5:17 and Romans 5:5).
Then there are the specifics that only apply to each individual. You are unique. No one else has the same combination of abilities and perspective on life. You see God in a way that others need to hear. Your voice and contributions are needed – otherwise, God wouldn’t have bothered to create you. You are significant.
To define the specifics, you can look at your:
- physical appearance and athletic ability
- sex (male or female)
- cognitive and emotional patterns and preferences
- personality patterns
- spiritual gifting
- work preferences
When you start to notice the patterns in all of these, you will have a stronger sense of your identity.
As you seek your identity, remember that you aren’t self-sustaining. You can’t keep yourself alive forever. You have a distorted self-image. You need to look beyond yourself to find your identity. You are defined by your context; God is where you came from, and if you’re a believer, God is where you will return.
How are you doing with discovering your true identity? What struggles or obstacles are preventing you from realizing all God made you to be?
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